The trauma of infidelity may feel like the ultimate betrayal. You may feel guilty and shamed wondering if you have done something wrong. Those feeling can make it difficult to reach out and get the support and advice you need from friends and family. It becomes your secret, which can leave you feeling alone and isolated. This is the time to reach out and seek the help of a professional who can sort out your feelings and clarify the situation.
Whether it’s called an emotional affair or a physical encounter it still is cheating and the breaking of your monogamy vows. It will profoundly hurt the relationship and can cause serious trust issues. However, many couples get through this most difficult time and discover a deeper more meaningful relationship.
It takes “transparency”, a willingness to be completely open for as long as it takes for your partner to rebuild the trust they once had. Becoming free from deceit by opening up, sharing your thoughts and feelings. Practice being sheer enough so that your partner no longer has to question whether you have be truthful or are still hiding your real self.
Look at yourself from the perspective of your partner, would you be suspicious by such behavior? Being willing to be open and honest can bring back the trust, but it takes time and evidence that your commitment is real and trustworthy.
Why do people cheat in the first place?
1) I am not getting my needs met.
2) I have never learned boundaries.
3) I am a thrill seeker.
4) I have low self-esteem.
5) I have a sexual fetish.
6) I no longer feel special
The trauma of infidelity may feel like the ultimate betrayal. You may feel guilty and shamed wondering if you have done something wrong.